Well, after receiving the news that she didn't have any drugs or alcohol is her system I was then left to decide if we were going to allow her back home. My feeling is that we SHOULD give her another chance ONLY because of the fact that her drug/alcohol screens came back negative. Yes, she was a bitch on wheels..and has numerous psychiatric problems...My fear is that by telling her to leave she will go back to using and to doing what she does to support that addiction. I know that I have no control over that but I want to give her a chance..
BUT...Herman and most of the other children DO NOT want her back..They don't care that the drug/alcohol screens are negative..They just want her out. This, because living with her is like living with a tornado trapped in a house. We cancelled the contract on the cell phone that she SWORE up and down she'd pay for. Have yet to see a penny for it.
Anyway...my feeling is this: Everyone in the house make a list of requirements and rules for The Big One to live by. Herman and I will look them over and compose a sort of contract that she will be required to sign. Should she slip up ONCE, she will have to move out. This way I will feel secure in my mind that I have done all I can do for her. I'm a big "NO ENABLING" person..and I feel at this point I may be crossing that line.
So, I want the line re-drawn...and let the battle begin. (Of course, the "battle" has already begun...between Herman and I. He feels that I'm taking her side...which I'm not. I feel that I have to give her this last chance..that's all.)
My hope is that she's gonna get totally pissed off at me and get well, just to prove me wrong. Trust me, I'm also a big believer of "God helps those who help themselves" and I am well aware of the fact that only the addict can make themselves better...IF that's what they want.
Here's to hoping that I don't burst out in tears at work today...